Question 4

Question 4 comes from my friend, Katy, who asks "If you had one piece of advice for a new BLM what would it be?"

I always want to say so many things to new BLMs whenever I meet them. I think if I had to choose one specific piece of advice, it would be to be patient with yourself and your grief. Don't expect the sadness and pain to disappear after a certain amount of time. Grief has no timeline, especially after losing a child. I know after Alexandra died, it was so frustrating crying every, single day and night. I thought it would never stop and I was afraid I wasn't going to be able to move forward from where I was. I remember asking my husband when the pain was going to go away and when or if I would ever smile or laugh again like I had once before. Those first few days, weeks and months seemed so dark, but now looking back I think I just had to be patient with myself and my grief.