Question 5

My next question is from Anthony's Mommy, who asks, "What advice would you give to BBC moms who want to TTC again but are scared to attempt again?"

This is a fantastic question! Having the courage to try again has got to be one of the hardest things. For my husband and I, it wasn't really a difficult decision. We had our doubts, but I remember the day we lost Alexandra we said to each other we would do anything we could to have another child and try again. After Alexandra died, it was then that I realized how much I wanted her and how much I really wanted a baby. I think if I were to tell someone advice about TTC again, it would just be to trust it, have hope and a lot of courage. Easier said than done, right? I myself don't even trust things anymore. I'm constantly doubting myself and others. Before this new little one, I felt very hopeless in getting pregnant again at all. I had hope, but I had doubts, if that makes any sense. I think one of the things that helped the most was seeing people have babies after a loss. They gave me hope and made me realize that it does and can work for people after all. I know several people who have had multiple losses and have gone on to have healthy children. Some of them are blog friends and others are friends in real life. I thought if they can do it, why can't I? You have to take a shot, right? Take that leap and have hope that it will work, otherwise you'll never know if you don't try. And I think that's worse than not trying. I would hate to wonder the rest of my life, what would happen if I just stopped trying after Alexandra?? I spend enough time wondering what went wrong with Alexandra, I don't need to wonder about anything else anymore! I hope some of the things I said are helpful to some. I know it seems impossible and I know this decision is different for each person, depending on the type of loss, if they found an answer, etc., but I think in the end, it all comes down to wanting to be a parent to a living child and having the courage to try again.